What Can You Do When A Colleague Sabotages You?

British scientists from all over the world say that when you are bitten by the arse by a colleague sabotages you, you should turn the other cheek. Well, wipe that image off and get a hold of yourself.

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Many times, the colleague has to be less prepared, as there is always the dumb plumber who did a job before or the doctor who prescribed the wrong treatment.

When this happens, you should first consider if this other guy might be right and you have to fix some faults!

You may spot the ones that are right as they will quickly prove it to you. I am not saying that everyone is right either, but from here to ridiculing all your “rivals”, it’s a long shot.

There are some who no matter the project, activity or change, always find something wrong and have to shout out loud how everything you do sucks or worse that you suck.

What can you do with such a sweet colleague:

  • Talk to him/her. Maybe it’s just a misunderstanding and can be solved quite quickly. Discuss only the behavior, not that he/she is beep beep beep;
  • Don’t try to make yourself agreeable, it’s useless;
  • Accept that some people have a very different personality and this doesn’t necessarily mean they have something personal against you. It’s possible this may be their nature;
  • Accept the fact that in a competitive department/company there is the inevitable risk of a conflict between the team members;
  • Use the ignore tool. Don’t enter a useless fight of who’s got the bigger… head;
  • If you still get attacked, don’t respond. It’s a perfect exercise for developing emotional intelligence;
  • Don’t let the hill-Billy affect your performance;
  • Get back to turning the other cheek image, oftentimes it helps disarming the “attacker”;
  • Avoid the person as much as possible. Even at a physical level, if you can move your office/team;
  • Don’t badmouth him/her in front of other colleagues. You aren’t any different from them if you do so;
  • Concentrate your energy on you, not on him/her;
  • Set some boundaries. Don’t allow certain things and this approach may help, but it doesn’t mean you should trust in him/her;
  • No need to create “support groups” against him/her;
  • In some cases, the problem cannot be solved unless one of you leaves the company, which is not necessarily a bad thing;
  • Have a spine. Always!

It’s one thing to run side by side, and let the best one wins; and it’s another thing to get trip up when nobody’s watching.

Good luck turning the other cheek!