You Don’t Have to Be Happy All The Time

At the beginning of every year, you should make a motion about being happy.

It’s a must, this is how it works, it’s customary, it’s written in all the books, you can’t make a resolution to be unhappy.

“This year I am going to be as miserable as I can!” – if that’s what you want, good luck, you have a great shot to make it in this sh*tty country, with sh*tty politicians and thugs at every corner, with beep, beep, beep… everything sucks. Not even emigrating is what it used to be… beep, enough misfortune.

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Let’s get back to those who wish to be happy. Contrary to all brainwashing stories, we must be aware that there is no state of absolute bliss, no matter what. Get real, please.

Let’s say you are normal and suddenly become happiness personification ‘cause you read about it somewhere. This state of supposed happiness will not last and you’ll end up depressed because unlike others you cannot reach that particular level of nirvana.

What can you do be happy at work and not only:

  • Smile more often;
  • Don’t set happiness as your main objective. It’s like hiring a coach to make you happy. Happiness is not an ability to develop or learn. Happiness is an effect;
  • In order to like your job, you first have to like what you do and this is exclusively your choice. If you don’t like it, change it, don’t just be there as headcount;
  • Accept that people can be different from you, without wishing to change them;
  • Don’t let others tell you what you cannot do;
  • You must achieve the hard (very hard) goals. If you master the easy ones, satisfaction will measure up the same;
  • Don’t gossip, because it won’t make you happy (I hope not). Happiness build on someone’s unhappiness will not withstand;
  • The better you get at what you do, the better you’ll feel / the happier you are;
  • Appreciate emotions brought by the experience, not material things. A new phone, a car, won’t be comforting you in 20 years from now, unlike emotions;
  • You can’t be happy without some moments of sadness;
  • Be open to change;
  • Try to remove from your schedule the things you don’t like. Yes, it can be applied at work also;
  • Don’t cling on to a negative mindset, it will turn out “nasty” anyway;
  • Don’t be jealous of other people’s achievements. You can always learn from them;
  • Don’t compare yourself with others, only with yourself;
  • Smile more often;
  • Every day, the uncontrollable hits. Don’t try to control everything;
  • Set some long term objectives in order to have the necessary motivation to move on from negative setbacks;
  • Don’t be shallow;
  • Find a balance between input effort and remuneration. If you can’t do this, you’ll shortly end up feeling miserable;
  • Write down the moments when you were happy and revise the list from time to time;
  • Only keep those relationships that make you happy;
  • Collaborate with people who you love to work with;
  • Limit as much as possible the collaboration with toxic people;
  • Live in the present, not the past;
  • Stop watching the news. If something really important takes place, you will definitely hear about it;
  • As much as possible, try to have a positive attitude;
  • Show integrity. A lot of discontent stem from the gap between personal values;
  • Rediscover the joy of simple things, for example, those you experienced as a child;
  • Sometimes you need to detach in order to allow yourself to be happy;
  • Live as you wish, not as others tell you to;
  • You can’t choose to be happy, but you can create an environment that favors this emotion. Following the same reasoning, you cannot choose to be sad, there are some factors that induce this state;
  • You don’t have to get everyone to like you;
  • Be confident;
  • Don’t blame yourself if something goes wrong. You can learn from it, but don’t sue yourself for every mistake, either small or big;
  • Learn to say NO. Often times, someone else’s happiness (at the office) is your unhappiness;
  • Set some alone time. Just for you. And don’t tell yourself you can’t afford it, it just shows your own importance in the priority list;
  • Don’t apologize so often. No, it does not mean being impolite, but about the degree of guilt that comes along with apologies;
  • Show your emotions, don’t just act;
  • Don’t accept things you hate, just to please others;
  • If you are a manager, you mustn’t make your subordinates happy. Your role is different in the organization;
  • Don’t do overtime frequently;
  • Don’t worry about every silly thing;
  • Smile again.

Let’s not dance the happy go round when there is no actual happiness, but a sheer pretense in a bubble that looks good on the outside.

Last but no least, respect the HUMAN law: if you treat me like a human, I will treat you like a human.

Good luck succeeding!

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