The Thin Balance Between The Personal and Professional Life Doesn’t Exist

You cannot perfectly separate your personal from your professional life, just as you cannot say that a balanced diet means holding a large kebab in each hand.

Mathematically speaking, if you count the time spent at work and the time “spent” with your personal life, you are clearly disadvantaged. The reason for this is that without counting the hours spent sleeping, you have little left to spend for you or your loved ones. If you are stupid enough to replace sleeping with working, even when working from home, you are lost. And by lost, I don’t mean very busy times when (as an exception) this might happen, but those times when this rhythm becomes something usual and you are completely swallowed up by your job.

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You won’t be able to give your partner, the kids or your friends the attention they deserve (assuming you still have any).

When you are at work and receive a call from your child, partner or friend, you treat them as such and probably leave aside whatever you were doing or if you can’t answer at once you’d probably get back to them as soon as possible. In other words, it’s perfectly normal to lose the balance you have at work due to your personal life, and vice versa.

You can’t ignore what happens at home when you are at work and what happens at work when you are home.

The same thing happens with your thoughts, not only with the actions per se. The happier and more content you are at home, the better you will perform in your career.

From my experience, the tired you’ll get, the poor the performance, both at home and in your interaction with the loved ones. No exceptions!

Legend states that the best Formula 1 engine will crash immediately after the finish line, though you may wanna continue the race even after you finished that report/project.

For each normal person, the family should be the most important thing in his/her life. This means that when you are home or on a holiday, you shouldn’t work on any tasks. On the other hand, if you have a lot on your mind at work, you will bring some home even if don’t want to. But this works only for normal people…

Don’t be naive, your personal life is precisely the reason why you have a professional life and not the other way around.

If you want to climb the hierarchy, you must perform well and sometimes make sacrifices, but NEVER put the job before you and your family. It’s up to you to manage the job and also your private life, so you can successfully achieve both without exaggerating. You can achieve performance on both levels, no need to give up on one.

By working all day/all night, sooner or later you will collapse, it’s just a matter of time.

If you share the perception that you shouldn’t start a family because you have to have a career, you may notice that some things in life are best to be done sooner or not at all.

It’s up to you how much time you spend on your personal benefit (life) and how much on your professional side. The more you say I DO to the career and other (spam) requests, the more I CAN’T you will be saying to yourself.

If you were to look around you, you’ll find people who are successful both personally and professionally and the only balance is that you only get 24 hrs daily. If you choose that ratio is 14 hrs of work, 3 hrs for personal life and 7 hrs for sleep or any other proportions with a clear disadvantage for personal time, you have the life you deserve. If you act in the same manner during weekends in order to recuperate, for the job, of course, you’re done!

Good luck striking a balance!