What Would People Say?

You are your worst enemy when you tell yourself you can’t do something – by considering what can people say about it – sadly, this is often the case.

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Lately I have been quite busy and had a lot to do as well and, without setting priorities I would easily say I don’t have enough time. If you came across the very same situation, just tell me – I can lend you some of the spare time I have left.

Last month I had a few conversations about the lack of self-esteem. For example: if I am not a fluent English speaker, it’s best to stop speaking and also, not do anything about it. I just keep everything to myself; better not say anything at all than risk to be laughed at.

Someone told me he/she wishes to advance in his/her career, but… he/she is not the best person for the “job” – no job was available at the moment, we were merely talking about it, as some sort of hypothetical self-torture. To my question whether the minimum, mandatory condition, to apply for a position and go to the interview, was met – well, the answer was no. What would the person who interviews me say if I am not good enough? Worst case scenario: you get the job. Best case scenario, they would tell you what went wrong and you’ll know what to improve in the future. Clearly I have a pain in the arse on what everyone would say if I went to 38 interviews and didn’t win any.

I have met people who were rejected numerous times (even when they counted right) at interviews. They were very stubborn, they asked what can be improved and after a while, by improving those aspects – they succeeded.

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Michael Jordan

They say that Data Protection Directive affected all fields of activity and now the nurse is not allowed to call you by your name when you have a doctor’s appointment. She is going to call in the waiting room for: “Mr./Mrs. with (insert here name of STD) please go see the doctor!”. Well, now let’s see what everyone waiting will have to say about it…

I don’t think you can allow yourself to be called good at something without working hard for that something and receiving (dozens) of feedback items and recommendations.

Don’t tell yourself you can’t do it, let others do it and then gracefully ignore them. Don’t let the noise they make overwhelm you.

Good luck succeeding!

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