You Can Lead the Horse to Water, but You Can’t Make Him Drink

This thing about leading the horse to water is an English proverb which dates back to 1100, coming most probably from the front runners of British scientists. Getting back to our horses – if someone doesn’t want to be helped, you can do whatever you want because it will still be some sort of spam. You’re simply providing unsolicited help.

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No matter how hard you try to explain about the donut hole and how to make it more round, if your listener makes some bread dough and wants to call it sponge cake… well, you cannot prove him/her wrong until it comes out of the oven.

Each of us encountered at least once a person who doesn’t want to be helped. Most of the time, the reasons for this are: they feel they already know everything and there is nothing you can do to help or they cannot accept any help even though they know they need it badly.  

When we’re talking about an employee who is not performing at the minimum required level, certain measures need to be taken; you cannot just let them to eventually get “back on track” in their own time.

Word goes that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results – a phrase  misattributed to Mr. Einstein. Usually, when something goes wrong you need to make a change. This may mean letting go of some habits that led to the undesired result… dooh. 

You CANNOT choose for someone what they are supposed to do just because it worked for you, especially if they are not willing to try anything else. What you can  do though is to help them to envision a better version of themselves, which they can evolve into, with your help. 

You need to respect everyone’s style and pace; being there for them during the hard moments will make them come to you for support, when they are ready.

Good luck succeeding!

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